Contrary to fairy tales, you cannot assume all divorces and re-marrying tales have a cheerful ending. A customer from 3 years ago wrote to inform us that the fantastic Filipina he spent a ton of money on to get her divorced from a brutal and violent husband had become an aggressive, lazy, uncooperative and generally unhelpful person (or words to that effect). Getting a divorce in the Philippines for his Filipina fiancee was the start of a downward spiral that caught this UK man by surprise.
He had taken her to the UK and virtually from the day she arrived on the scene there she was dissatisfied with everything. The weather was too cold, the vehicle he bought for her was not big enough and they also drove on the incorrect side of the road. Needless to say she had no driving licence in the PI and so attempted to persuade the UK driving instructor to pass her without the need to take a driving test! she even tried to bribe him. Unable to get any success via that route she somehow managed to arrange to undergo the usual UK driving exam. Having basically no ability to drive she failed the exam before it ended, so thought up a variety of excuses as to why she failed. Blame is the name of her game, it seems.
Later she complained that the food wasn’t Filipino style, and declined to cook for him and stated that his house was too big for her to care for, so she wanted a maid. This list went on and on. Incidentally she was a maid when he became acquainted with her. He said his life was now an absolute misery, even though he had gone to great trouble to assist her to make the considerable adjustment to living in the United Kingdom. She has found out that living in the west is simply not all a bed of roses, even though the enhancement in lifestyle is considerable.
Her Filipino acquaintances were in the house continuously eating everything in sight and only left as soon as the cupboards were bare. They also ‘borrowed’ many electrical home appliances which were never returned.
He stated they have been to marriage guidance consultations and at those sessions she’d sat next to him and smilingly held his hand and stroked his leg. She gave an enthusiastic account of the way her divorce in the Philippines was acquired and she was happy to now be married, though she was having some challenges adjusting. She made an excellent impact on the counsellor who decided it was all the husband’s fault.
He is now seeking a divorce, which in England is a straight-forward procedure.
While in the courtship days he purchased a house for her in Manila which needless to say is in her name. Now he must sell his residence of 30 years and give her a significant share of the proceeds from that.
Hardly a good result! Divorce in the Philippines is certainly acheivable, but the character of the person being helped continues to be a core component of whether a partnership can survive when she is taken to live abroad.
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